SOUL RETRIEVAL is a gentle, graceful, and profound healing practice. This information will better help you understand your soul retrieval. In the description that follows, I am using a shamanic framework to describe and clarify the nature and experience of the soul. This will help you understand and possibly engage with the unseen world by presenting a framework that our conscious minds can understand. You don’t have to believe in or agree with this framework to have a soul retrieval.
The soul, as referred to in soul retrieval, is the energetic essence of your being. It encompasses the intangible aspects of your being, including gifts, qualities, and aspects of who you are. It is the “you” that transcends physical experience. Pieces and parts of that soul essence can sometimes become separated, trapped, and/or lost. If you imagine the soul energy as a sphere, when soul loss occurs, there are voids and areas that are missing.
Soul loss is part of the human experience. The brain has designed to protect our physical essence from various kinds of trauma. If something traumatic is happening, such as a car accident, physical violence, or an emotional assault, the last place we want to be is fully present in our bodies and in the experience. Instead, part of us goes away to avoid the trauma. Psychologists refer to this as dissociation. The shamanic community calls it soul loss. Either way, it helps us to survive the various kinds of trauma that happen in our lives.
Lots of kinds of trauma can cause soul loss. Examples include accidents, surgery, violence, abuse, betrayal, abandonment shame, profound loss and combat or work trauma as often experienced by police. Whenever someone says, “I’ve never been the same since my accident/that relationship/my surgery,” they are describing a soul loss experience. Trauma that causes soul loss can be subtle and different for each person. Being teased or shamed can cause a sensitive child to lose soul parts, as could something as simple as moving from a beloved childhood home.
Whatever the trauma, the protective mechanism of soul loss causes part of our life essence to leave in order to protect itself from being damaged or traumatized. The soul part leaving sometimes carries away some of the memory and immediacy of the experience. In the normal course of events, the soul part would return on its own after the trauma had passed. But sometimes the trauma is so severe that the soul part goes so far and fast that it can’t find its way back and gets lost. In cases of chronic trauma or abuse, the soul part may not know it’s safe to come back. There’s no time in shamanic reality, so the soul part doesn’t know that twenty years have passed and the violent stepfather is no longer in the picture.
Another type of soul loss occurs when a part leaves because it doesn’t fit or because it is sent away. This could be an aspect that is shamed or punished; for example, someone might send away his/her anger if it is the cause of additional stress or holding back love. Sometimes we send soul parts away because they don’t fit into our adult lives, disowning our impractical passions.
Finally, soul loss can happen when parts of our soul are taken by or given to the significant people in our lives. As human beings, we struggle to maintain good physical and emotional boundaries. The concept of good energetic boundaries is not something that occurs to most people. When soul parts are taken or exchanged, it invariably happens on an unconscious, energetic level. People who have had soul parts taken unknowingly take soul parts from others. While there’s no judgment or blame, this does put people in an inappropriate energetic relationship.
In a romantic relationship, the people involved often will trade soul parts. Our culture’s love mythology implies that when we love someone, we give them our heart and our soul. It’s easy to mistake a lack of energetic boundaries for closeness and connection. People often unconsciously give their lover some of their own vital life essence along with their love. This exchange makes both people more dependent on each other, less able to stand on their own, and thus less likely to leave. It can feel safer and more connected to both parties, but in reality, both people are diminished.
Whatever the source of soul loss, the effects are much the same. Soul loss will diminish a person’s sense of well-being and joy in life. It can cause a lack of vitality and interest in the world. People often feel depressed, listless, and as though the world was all gray. Soul loss can lead to gaps in memory. People can feel fragmented or spacey or even like pieces are missing. Sometimes people become accident-prone or keep falling into the path of misfortune. People with soul loss can spend a lot of energy working through events of their past and still feel impacted by them. In extreme cases, soul loss can cause a lack of sense of self, suicidal tendencies, and vulnerability to physical illness.
Impact of a Soul Retrieval
The experience of soul retrieval varies from person to person. Some people experience soul retrieval as life-changing: a sensation of being filled up, a tingling or a heat. Other people feel a subtler impact. Often a much greater effect is felt some days after the soul retrieval than immediately after the work is completed.
The shift in your life can be subtle. Some clients have reported that they felt very little at the time but found that they felt more solid in themselves, less tired, more sure of their choices and path following a soul retrieval. Things that would have been nearly impossible seem fairly straightforward after a soul retrieval.
In terms of emotional impact, soul retrieval is generally very gentle, and you will be advised as to techniques to use to help to make it even more so. Even when parts are lost due to severe trauma, they come back unharmed. When people get back memories of the traumatic events that caused soul loss the memories are factual, with no emotion attached. After a soul retrieval, people often want extra downtime, to reflect and just be with themselves. If people have a strong emotional response to soul retrieval, it’s almost invariably one of profound joy and celebration.
Because soul retrieval is called upon to be gentle, people are sometimes surprised by how much of an impact it has. Afterwards you may find it much harder to accept situations where you are not being honored, regardless of the economic or emotional advantages of being in that place.
Those individuals who have ended a major relationship and are having trouble moving on are perfect candidates for a soul retrieval. Very often a soul part is left behind with the former spouse or lover and returning that part to my client frees them to move on.
How Soul Retrieval Works
Before we begin the soul work we will connect on the phone and I will explain all the details of what will be happening and we will share in a prayer asking for those soul pieces to be returned that could most help you at this time to lead a healthier and happier life. I will also ask you in advance to purchase a candle that you will light at this time. This candle is representative of the sacredness of the experience and the lighting the way for your soul pieces to return. Following the soul retrieval I will ask you to burn this candle for a while every day for 21 days. In the prayer I will ask you to call upon anyone or thing that is a part of your own core religious belief system and to maybe have before you any symbols or pictures of anyone that you would like to help you.
When I begin a soul retrieval, we will disconnect from our phone connection and you’ll lie, or sit down quietly. While I am doing the soul retrieval, in my location, set your intent to release anyone else’s soul parts you may be holding onto and ask that they return to the appropriate person. Simply stating this intent clearly and/or asking your guides for help is sufficient.
During the soul retrieval, I go into an altered or trance state while lying down quietly and listening to a drumming recording. I will ask you to listen to that same drumming music at your location so that our energy is in sync. Drumming has been scientifically shown to alter human brain waves into a deeper relaxed and more aware state. I shift my awareness into shamanic reality, meet my guides and power animal, and begin the work. What will come up for me are the ages that the soul pieces left and then some vision of what the reason was behind the split. I will carry these pieces back and place them in my heart center until they are returned to you.
I talk to each soul piece about how you are ready to receive it back and would like it to return. I give it space to tell me its story. Sometimes the part talks to me about why it left, sometimes not. I note the surroundings in which I find the soul part and how old it appears to be.
Once I’ve gathered all the pieces that I am instructed to retrieve (generally three or four, but sometimes up to six) as the most critical, I will take them all into my heart space and then will spend some time thanking my guides and helpers.
If I am working from a distance, I return the soul parts to my client by asking them to place the phone by their heart and the top of their head and I blow the soul pieces back through the phone. Either way is effective as the soul pieces are energy that travel through space and time.
I then share the details of my journey, and we talk about what was happening at these different ages of your life to try to bring some understanding to the soul loss. We then talk about what you should do in the days following this experience. This completes the soul retrieval.
After the Soul Retrieval
I recommend you spend some time talking to your soul parts. Really talking…out loud! Remember that they have left at different points in time and may have never seen (through human eyes) any of the new wonders of your current life. Consider for a moment what a four year old you would imagine if you went into the future of modern day you…with cellphones and computers and more! We will talk about ways that you can make them feel more welcome by remembering the things that brought you joy at all the ages of the returned pieces. I will also ask you to burn the candle and take a moment to give thanks and honor the process, the spiritual help and the soul pieces that have returned each day. We will also teach you a method to help you to trigger joyful memories from your life – so that you can re-live those experiences again with your returning soul pieces and in the process raise your vibration and capacity to attract more joy!
Following a soul retrieval, you may continue to experience spontaneous soul return of soul parts coming back on their own, now that the process has been activated.
By understanding soul loss, there is an opportunity to move through the world with much healthier energetic boundaries. It is good to become conscious of not giving away your soul parts, no matter how deeply you love someone. You can also set your intent to release any soul parts that you may have collected from others as you go along. When you release those parts, you free yourself of the burden of unusable energy. You also improve your energetic relationship to the people whose soul parts you have and place yourself more fully in right relationship with the universe.